My neighbor's daughter is turning 10 years old next month. She is compiling a book for her that is to contain bits of wisdom to help her through her teenage years. She is asking each woman that is participating to share an experience or some information that we think is important for her to know as she becomes a young woman. I have a few ideas, of course, but was curious what some of the rest of you might think is an important thing for a girl to know. Here are a couple of my ideas:
1. Never believe you have to define yourself by a man. Too many young women that I see are so caught up in making sure they have a man, many get pregnant to keep their man, many put up with abuse and others just cling all because society or culture says that a woman HAS to have a man. I'm not saying she shouldn't strive to find love and happiness, but she needs to know that a woman is a powerful and important entity all on her own!
2. Don't get caught up on physical appearance. As long as you are a good and beautiful person on the inside, it will emanate and reflect on the outside. Women of all sizes, shapes, and colors are BEAUTIFUL!
One that I would love to address is never be fooled that lust is really love. Many boys will say they love you just to get in your pants! Don't believe them! If they truly love you, they'll respect your boundaries and allow you to explore your sexuality in your own time. However, I'm not sure my neighbor would be too keen on me talking sex with her 10 year-old!
And 3. Believe you can do anything! There are no limits, be who and what makes you happy! Although, financially it may be alot smarter to get a degree in accounting or engineering, if this isn't something that truly makes you happy, it will only fill your pocketbook and not your heart!
OK ladies... what are your thoughts?!?!
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Never think that punishment from a parent is out of hate. Their only thought is to make you a better adult. That is love in its truest form.
Trust your parents. They have lived life longer and been through everything you are going through now. Ask how they handled your particular problem. The answer may surprise you into asking more questions.
Your friends will run and hide at the first sign of trouble and leave you alone. Your parents will stand like a rock to help.
Anything that affects your mind badly and causes you to doubt yourself makes you more like an animal. If you want to be an animal, find a cage.
You may blame drugs and alcohol for your actions but the results will be your responsibility and yours alone.
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